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Friday, July 11, 2008

Thinking on Fatherhood

This is something I have been thinking about alot lately. What have I learned about what it means to be a Father. I have 5 daughters, 4 living and 1 that was miscarried watching over me in heaven, so I would think I might know something but at times I think I know very little.

One of the things that I have come to realize is that to be the best father I can be, I need to be the best husband I can be to my wife. For me, married to the mother of my children, I need to be all of who I am to be the best Father to my children.

I have heard it said that the Father in a family is the image of God the Father to the family. I am trying to put my heart around bringing that idea and the idea of that person being a husband at the same time. How does the image of God the Father also fit as that person being a husband? Or does it? Maybe that image is best in the Bride-Groom person of Jesus Christ? I don't know.

I do know, I need to be a better husband to my wife. She is an amazing person and I love her and I am growing in my work and love for her. Right now I am staying up studying different computers. I think I have found what will work best for us and fit her needs. Beware, this is a geek moment, but I think we may end up going Mac at this house. I still need to do alot of study but I think it will provide best what my wife needs.

Time for sleep, just been doing lots of thinking. How can I fill both roles as one to be who I am supposed to be? I heard about a biography of St. Thomas More today, I think I need to read it.

Under the Mercy,

Matthew S


Soutenus said...

I am up late perusing blogs -- found yours through Disciple of the Dumb Ox. I read one of your Twitter updates on the aphid problem. Have you tried ladybugs? I posted on how we do this at CGandES. Our kids love the lady bug releases!
I suggest putting netting around prblem areas and releasing many inside the netting so they do not disperse too quickly.
Good luck!

Christine the Soccer Mom said...

I switched, partly due to starting work w/ Apple, but I wish I could have gone back and NOT bought my last PC now. I'm sure if you switch over, you'll be pleased with how simple Macs are to use. (And I say that as someone who used PCs for some 25 years before switching over somewhat reticently.) Now even my former-programmer father is on the Apple bandwagon! LOL!

BTW, aren't you guys homeschoolers? If so, you get an educational discount w/ Apple, a free (or free after refund) iPod (touch or nano, 8 GB), and up to $100 back on a printer (if you need it). it's hard for me to keep being a gazelle when I am talking to other people all day who are buying Macs and getting free stuff (or big rebates on stuff, anyway).

Anonymous said...

"How can I fill both roles as one to be who I am supposed to be?"

I have contemplated this same question. Please keep us posted on the answers you find. It would be helpful to me especially! Thanks.

Anthony said...

Well said, you have touched on something that strikes to very heart of being a husband and dad. These are things upon which I meditate often. I'll keep you in my prayers.